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Caring for an aging parent or grandparent is a profound expression of love—but it’s often complex, emotional, and overwhelming. Many adult children find themselves juggling elder care responsibilities while still managing careers, raising families, or maintaining their own health.

Whether your loved one is living independently or beginning to need more support, the journey doesn’t come with a manual. That’s why it helps to break it down into manageable parts—and to know what local resources are available to lighten the load.

Here are some essential considerations to keep in mind:

1. Acknowledge the Emotional Weight

Caring for a parent or grandparent isn’t just about logistics—it’s deeply emotional. You may be navigating grief, guilt, role reversals, or family tensions. It’s important to acknowledge these feelings and remember they are normal.

📌 Tip: Consider journaling or speaking with a therapist, friend, or caregiver support group. Processing your emotions can help you stay grounded during this transition. According to the Family Caregiver Alliance, 40%–70% of caregivers experience symptoms of depression—emotional care matters too.¹

2. Start Conversations Early

If you haven’t yet, initiate conversations about future needs and preferences. It may feel awkward at first, but planning ahead helps avoid rushed decisions during a crisis.

Try open-ended questions like:

• “What kind of help would feel good right now?”

• “Have you thought about what you’d want if you needed more care?”

Framing these talks as a way to honor their wishes—not remove their independence—builds trust and sets the tone for collaboration.

3. Organize Key Documents and Information

Having essential paperwork and contacts in one place can make a huge difference during emergencies.
Recommended items include:

• Medical contact list and medication details

• Insurance and financial account info

• Power of Attorney or Health Care Directive

• Emergency contacts

📌 Pro tip: Create a “just in case” binder with your loved one’s input (preferably a fire proof one), and store it somewhere accessible. Many adult children find peace of mind knowing they’re prepared, even if those documents never need to be used.

4. Evaluate Daily Needs and Safety

As physical or cognitive needs change, evaluate whether the home environment still supports their safety and independence.

Common topics to assess:

• Home modifications: grab bars, stair rails, lighting, rugs

• Mobility support: walkers, shower chairs, toilet risers

• Driving ability: regular evaluations can identify when it’s time to transition to alternative transportation

Not sure where to start? The National Institute on Aging offers home safety checklists and caregiver guides.²

5. Support Their Social and Emotional Wellbeing

Social isolation is a serious health risk for older adults. According to the U.S. Surgeon General, loneliness can increase the risk of dementia, heart disease, and stroke.³

Look for opportunities for connection:

• Local senior centers (see Lehigh Valley resources below)

• YMCA wellness programs for older adults

• Faith or volunteer communities

• Virtual visits with family and friends

6. Nutrition and Meal Support

Eating well is essential for maintaining health, but for many older adults, cooking regularly becomes a challenge—especially if mobility or energy is limited. Ensuring access to balanced meals can make a major difference in overall wellness and independence.

📌 Explore options like:

• Meals on Wheels of the Greater Lehigh Valley – Nutritious meal delivery for seniors and adults with disabilities.

• Mom’s Meals – Home-delivered meals for Medicaid-eligible individuals.

• Local services like Delivered to Your Door Lehigh Valley for regional delivery options.

💡 Some families prefer a more personal touch. At Here For You Concierge, we also support clients by preparing meals in their homes—based on dietary preferences and health needs. It’s a great solution for those who enjoy fresh, home-cooked meals but need a little help making it happen.

7. Consider Your Own Capacity

You don’t have to do it all. And you shouldn’t try to.

Caregiver burnout is real—watch for signs like fatigue, irritability, or disconnection from your own life.
Look into:

• Sibling collaboration

• Professional services (meal prep, errands, home organization)

• Support groups or counseling

• Programs like the PA Caregiver Support Program

Even carving out 15 minutes a day for yourself can help you show up with more patience and clarity.

8. Explore Local Resources

You’re not alone. The Greater Lehigh Valley has many programs designed to support aging adults and their families. Here are a few:

Social Programs

• Lehigh Valley Active Life | (610) 437-3700

• YMCA River Crossing

Transportation & Delivery

• GoGoGrandparent | (855) 464-6872

• Local AAA offices often coordinate transportation support for seniors.

• Purple Car LV for safe and reliable transportation | (484) 478-1133 | kelly.purplecar@gmail.com

Legal Guidance

• North Penn Legal Services

• PA SeniorLAW HelpLine | 1-877-727-7529

Local Aging Agencies
These offices offer assessments, referrals, care management, insurance counseling, and help with caregiver applications:

• Lehigh County | (610) 782-3034

• Northampton County | (610) 829-4540

• Carbon County | (610) 824-7830

• Statewide Aging Resources

• PA Care Kit

9. When It’s Time for Extra Help

If your loved one is relocating, facing increasing care needs, or simply overwhelmed by daily living tasks, professional help may be the next step.

These local partners can help:

• Premier Senior Placement

• Caring Transitions

• BrightStar Care – Allentown for non-medical in-home support

You can also speak with a Long-Term Care Ombudsman if you have concerns about care quality or rights in a facility: Request Ombudsman Assistance

Let Here For You Concierge Lighten the Load

If you’re in the Lehigh Valley and need help coordinating errands, organizing belongings, downsizing, or calling around to connect with services—we’re here. We’re not a medical or legal provider, but we do make the process easier, more manageable, and less lonely.

Reach out for a free consultation. We’ll help you find the right support so you can focus on what matters most—being a loving presence in your parent’s life.

This blog was inspired by a client who is an employee wellness coordinator, seeking support resources for her stressed coworkers caring for aging parents.

If there’s a topic you’d like us to explore, please don’t hesitate to reach out. We’re here to make your life easier!

Sources:

1. Family Caregiver Alliance: Caregiver Statistics

2. National Institute on Aging: Caregiving Resources

3. U.S. Surgeon General 2023 Report on Social Connection: Our Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation